Being an intimidating person
Now, that having been said: you want to consider toning down your behavior somewhat.
I conducted an informal (and utterly unscientific) poll on the Dr.
And don’t get me wrong, this isn’t someone looking for geeky attention or a propped up fantasy. But “intimidating” is almost uselessly vague, especially if they keeps coming up; it covers a multitude of meanings to the point that it means everything and nothing at once.
She has a job she loves that pays good money, money that she likes to spend on her geeky hobbies and toys. – she hears the same thing over and over again: “You’re too intimidating…” Does this sound familiar to you? In fact, going by the number of emails I get from my readers, it’s most common issue that geek (or geek-curious) women encounter when they’re interested in dating.
While there are some people who command respect because of their magnetic personality, others command respect because they are intimidating and can have their way with people.
2 View All Next »I want to introduce you to someone. She’s geeky to her Joss-Whedon-loving core, a Whovian, Vertigo-reading, 3rd edition D&D (none of that 4th ed crap thank you very much) gamer with the con stories to prove it. While it’s true that many men will use it as a polite dodge to avoid saying “I’m not attracted to you”, when it comes up over and over again, it’s a sign that maybe there’s more to it.
It would be interesting to get an answer or response from both girls and guys I just notice that quiet people don't seem to get approached or thought of as friendly as often as loud obnoxious people (yes, I understand two totally different people both on the extreme sides of the spectrum).